Well grandpa (in law) called this morning to see how I am doing, apologized for not calling more, etc. He will not be at the wedding bc he and grandma are just getting too old to travel, in his words. They each fell this summer, he got black eye, she got stitches. Both are stubborn and insist on staying in their house in the country even though assisted living would prob be a better fit.
Anyway grandpa made mention that last he heard MIL and "her whole crew" were going to camp out in Uncle's basement for the wedding. Apparently MIL called uncle and said that if the hotel rooms were only $50 the place must be a dump and she wasn't staying there. It is actually sad that grandpa has such low regard for his own daugther.
Anyway if there is chance in Hell that MIL and her brood are staying at the house, I am definitely getting a hotel! I don't want to get sucked into her big plans ever again...