My analogy toward my M is more like our home. It is still here. Our stuff and I are still in it. The front door is closed. My D and I will live as normal life as possible and I will endeavor to get my pre-married life back. The only thing that will change our current situation is that SHE will have to approach the door and see if it’s locked. And then choose to walk way or come inside with us. It may even be locked by then. Will she knock? Is she THAT strong? But I will decide whether to unlock it.
So, your love ISN'T unconditional is it?.. (good, it shouldn't be..)
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But I still stand by what I have learned about “unconditional” which you also note above (bold)
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It is the act of helping them, and guiding them towards the path that is most conducive to their happiness, without any regard to what that means for us.
Total nonsense. You guys need some serious man talk on this thread... You are sounding like a bunch of high school girls here... You are out of your mind if you for one second really believe that you can keep on giving love to a person without getting anything back in return and really really believe that you don't want or need anything back???
What planet are you living on guys? No wonder some of you are not going to get your WS back. If you keep believing that nonsense we can put you in the "I tried but we are now divorced category"
Stop fooling yourselves with this "unconditional" love nonsesnes and get back to reality... Women do NOT respect a man who acts and talks like you guys are talking and acting. You are the men that get the "he is such a nice guy, but I only want him as a friend."
Time to put some CONDITIONS on your love guys... My love IS conditional and I am proud of it. I can name a number of things that my wife could do that would be the start of divorce proceedings on my end.. One of them is having an affair. I don't share. She is wise to that condition of my love and agreed to it when we married.
Stop being so naive guys. Your love is NOT unconditional (and shouldn't be)and it is SMART to know and believe that.
