You can't change the direction she is going, but you may be able to "lead". Of course you will have to start a path that she will take interest in. Build up this new path, something that is interesting and perhaps it will draw the wife back in. If it does not draw the wife in, it will be good for you and should attract others.
Also some of these WAS's may be depressed and not even know it. Often times a sign of depression is anger. We LBS's know that the WAS usually will direct anger towards us. This anger may be due to an internal guilt, and is a protection mechanism.
I'm thinking getting on a path of being "generally attractive" for whatever type you tend to attract is a good idea. Also, like I was saying setting up your life so that it is varied and interesting may draw the wife back in, it will be something new and interesting for her to come over and see what the hell you are doing - why aren't you complaining any more, etc.
