I had a good conversation last night with my Aunt. I gave her the low down of what want down last weekend where my wife took our girls and want to the summer cabin with a male (friend) co worker and his two kids. One thing that hurt was the fact my wifes family was there as well. We all know it was a coming out party, at least in my mind. My Aunt said listen, you have to understand your wife is searching for something you were not giving her for a long time. You (I) have lots of family support and perhaps your wife does not. Talking to her without blame or anger is the approach to take. Ask Wife: How did you tell the girls, how was there reaction. Did you notice anything emotionally different with the girls ( especially my oldest) My Aunt said to ask my oldest if she has any questions about mom’s friend, Keep it generic and light. You (I) can’t change the direction she is going….. bottom line.
