{quote]You're still too focused on what she thinks. I know it's easy to say that and hard to do, but do it you must. She's going to say what she says and there's not a damn thing you can do about it. It comes down to control, and you have none over her.[/quote] This ^^^ is a great quote. Dude, she is really only thinking about herself right now. You will need to accept that right now, you do not matter. The key words are "right now". You see, none of us know what will happen in the future. None of us can ensure that she will wake the F up. What we can assure you of is this...
You work on you and you will be a better man. A better father. A better friend. A better partner in your next R, which could very well be with your W.
As hard as it is, your decisions right now should be based on what is good for you and the kids. PERIOD. The more you try and consider how you feel the more you keep yourself attached to her, which right now SHE does not want. The more you pull her closer the more she pulls farther away.
Your probably (if you are anything like me) still at the point where you are thinking..."what will she think about this or how may she interpret this" - STOP it.
Continue to detach my friend.
As for the vacation - be very careful with how you spend your money. Make sure that your L understands what you are doing and why. Any excess spending especially if you own a ton will be viewed negatively by the court. I understand that you need the break - dude i get it. Just be careful.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
