As requested I am starting a new post. A little background, the short version.
Jan '09 bomb dropped out of nowhere, no other man to deal with, DB'd my ass off. She started going to see a counselor and brought me in later and started to piece this thing back together
SUmmer of '09 was great and everything thing was smooth until about March of this year, when she started to go back into the same ole' miserable wife that she was back in early '09.
Money problems at the time seemed to trigger this bout, even though we live in an upper class neighborhood with club membership, but money did get tight and then as always, income went back up and we are OK now. But she still was miserable.
I called her out on being a little princess and she stated that she just does not care anymore. Found a notebook of hers that had every bad thing I have done since the first of the year, and now I use it to see how I am doing without her knowledge.
Since then, there has been little affection, sex has dropped off to about once every week or two, and when we do have it, it is pretty emotionless on her part.
Decided to go on a 6 month trial (in week number 7) of being the best husband I could be to her. The results have been generally good, and we are in a good relationship now as far as friends go, but still know commitment to meet my needs in this marriage.
Now update time.
As said things are going pretty good, even getting a few loving touches that have not been there in a while.
Having trouble today, decided to write a note for her and told her what a great mother she was and a great wife she is, and she has not even mentioned it to me.
I wanted to do this for her to tell her what I thought about her and that should be enough, but am troubled that she does not have the decency to at least say thanks for the note.
I will not call her out on this as that would not represent why I gave it to her, but I am just a bit hurt (manly huh) that she said nothing.
Hope everyone is doing well, thought I would take a break from here for a while, but see I need you all now and again to bounce stuff off. By the way, I have remained clear of any tirades with her journal, even though there is nothing in there about the good things I do either...
