Like I said, I agree with a lot of your ideas, and even part of what you say about unconditional love.

I'm not saying I would stop loving my wife even if she did not accept my help and kept on her merry little way. I would love her whether she followed my guidance or not...I just gotta try to help to the best of my ability...for as long as I can handle the task personally.

If she totally blew me off and wanted no help from me, would I like it? No. Would I still love her? Yes.

At the point I realize she will not accept my help, when I know I've done all that I can for her...and I cannot continue to involve myself in her destructive behavior...That is the point I set her free with love in my heart.

Disappointment too? You bet. But I'll always love her.

M: 29, W: 28
Together 8 years, Married 1 (5/16/09)
Bomb (LYBNILWY)4/22/10
Affair discovered 5/3/10, began Jan/Feb 2010
Separated 5/22/10 - Present
Affair exposed 7/7/10
No children