I read the last five pages or so all at once, and seeing some of the advice I was getting a little worried, but you've done a good job of sticking to your guns, OIN. Way to go!
Just a thought, but you said your friend told you that having a baby helped turn his marriage around. Could your wife have been getting advice like that, too?
Whatever the reason, I'm glad you didn't fall into the trap of having unprotected sex with a woman who wants to get pregnant for the wrong reasons, and trusting in your ability to "pull out" or take some shot or supplement. If there were a male birth control method that involved occasional injections but no condoms, I'd jump on it, but to my knowledge there's no male equivalent to "the Pill" that has been shown to be effective in clinical testing. We should all beware the power of wishful thinking. And even if it worked, you'd end up regretting the shortcut. Doing the work, as you're doing, will take longer, but it might really work.
