You think it's wrong and destructive to her life, so you do everything in your power to influence her away from it. In your opinion its bad, and in her opinion it's good. Accepting the idea that it's not your right or responsibility to intervene on her behalf is crap to me.
An extreme situation certainly.
What if after everything you do to try to "correct" her doesn't work?
Originally Posted By: Mike
I love my wife unconditionally. To me, in my situation...that means I feel and have an obligation to steer her in a healthy direction, whether it results in the end of our marriage or not. Everything I do or say has her best interests in mind as much as my own.
Steer her to your belief of what is right for her.
Yes you have an obligation to correct your children.
Your W is not a child.
She may be behaving like one.
If you treat her like one you will not have a W for long.
And if that is acceptable to you then....
And
Look at your statement.
Your love is conditional.
Conditional on her behaving or conforming.
Your responsibility is to understand that you cannot control another and their choices...
Set boundaries for yourself and protect yourself.
Let her deal with the consequences of her choices.
Then
Have the courage to find what it means to really love your W
when she doesn't give you back what you want.
when she makes her own choices.
when she makes bad choices.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
