What you see in your W's eyes is typical of the MLCer. It is the pain, confusion, anger and unhappiness from within.
She is still deep within the tunnel and still believing this will make her happy. Even if she got everything she asked for in the D, she still will find no real happiness.
Please do whatever it is to protect yourself and your S. Do not worry about your W. She hasn't faced her issues and until she does you'll be blamed anyway, no matter what you do.
Step back and let your W's MLC run it's course. It's all you can do.
