Quiet day. H did try to call my cell when I was getting off work but I didn't answer. Sad today, found out a close friend has lymphoma. They had to remove her ovary, part of her colon, and it has already spread to some nodes. Not looking good.
I didn't forward the other emails to either the Sheriff or my lawyer because it all became so ridiculous. Threatening me one minute and placating and begging the next. I think he knows I have him over a barrel, and he can't budge. Hopefully, I do. He is surely in some kind of panic, and it can't all be over buying some real estate.
My H keeps trying to call the house through other people's phones, but I don't answer if I don't know them. He finally called D23 and told her I had to call because he was 'coming down to pick up some stuff' this weekend. I replied by email:
Try to get this through your head. Nothing is leaving this property until a settlement has been reached, and it won't be reached until I am ready. I have an order of protection, I spoke to the Sheriff's office Monday. If you insist on going this route, I'll have my lawyer demand maintainence and displacement, which means if you quit paying on the house, you have to pay for me to live in a similar place. You'll get your divorce, never fear, but bet your ass it will be on my terms. No matter how you try to shape it in your mind, you are the one in the wrong in this marriage, and I didn't do anything but support my husband while he chased his career for 20 years, among other things, and I have the proof to back it up. If there is something in particular you are wanting, let me know, and I'll see that it gets to you. Otherwise, leave me alone, and quit using Rachel.
I know this doesn't sound very DB'ng, but he's been hounding me everyway he can for a week now. Tell me truly fellow posters, how did it sound to you?
You sounded super strong, and determined. If I were him, I would curl up into a ball, under the bed and not come out for a bit. Hahaha!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Ah, now maybe he's going to do the non-response thing. Why doesn't he just say what he wants, other than your signature, of course?
PS You cannot DB a MLCer, in my opinion.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
It appears that my signature is ALL he wants. After several email go rounds today, he finally came up with a box of old uniforms from Iraq and a file of copies of the kids social security cards & old medical records.
Then signing the agreement came up again. I offered to take the box of uniforms to his son, and mail the records. Then I said I'd look at the damn agreement and show it to my lawyer. After that, he didn't even have anything more to say about the box of uniforms and files. I had to re email him and ask if that was okay for me to take them to his son's house.
I told him I just wanted some peace, and that meant he had to leave me the hell alone. He said he didn't want to fight, and "Oh, thanks for looking at the paperwork". Looking ain't signing.
It all upset me. Even after all I've read about how the MLC'r blames everything on you and rewrites history, the hatefulness is just more than I can take. Made for a very down day.
My friend may get to come home from the hospital tomorrow. They couldn't get all the tumor as it would have involved causing her to have a colostomy bag, and she said she'd rather die on the table, made them promise they wouldn't do it, so they left in 5%.
Wondering if I can spin around what he wants into him signing what I want in the way of an agreement. It doesn't seem we are headed anywhere but to divorce court.
