Pie's Story - he's comfortable again

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Hi Punkin:) LOL, wonder if anyones got a turkey handle heehee!
Nooo you didnt offend me! Any and all advise is always welcome! The whole boundries thing, I started doing that a while ago, which definately helped, not with him coming and going, but with how I will and wont be spoken to, and what my 'limits' are. It made an instant change just about, and I think thats when he started becoming friendlier, and more comfortable.

I feel like I've been through the going relativly dark process, and its brought us to the point where we are at now, friends. I feel like its progress, and I'm not really wanting to set boundries on him wanting to come visit, because when he is here (most times) he is actually engagin with ME and only a little with S, so I feel he's trying to reconnect on a friendship level, and I dont want to muck that up. I feel its a babystep.

I havnt done the 'him babysitting' since I last spoke of it, i get a sitter, and he's very quizzy where i've been. i dont overly oblige, but I've always been sucky at being secretive, but its something that I'm working on

The difficulty is the 'being mysterious' bit. If he doesnt find out from me what my plans are, he can find out from my friends, who are still his friends The sitter is also relative of his BMF, so I've started being vague, but I still suck at it, and sometimes just offer up stuff without thinking...oh dear, thats the one part of DBing I essentially suck at baaadly! I reckon when I can get that right, things will change even more!! Any help with that would be appreciated!! I've just always been an open and honest person!! Hit me over the head someone!