Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Thanks CG. As far as W with someone else, I've done "extensive" investigation and found nothing. So I kind of put that one to bed for now.

To be honest I don't even care if she changes the way she deals with financial/business issues. I've dealt with it for years so it doesn't surprise me.

As far as her being angry or detahced, well, who knows for sure except for her I guess. I'm sure I could talk to 10 counselors and get 10 different opinions. My DB coach thought that W was angry about me allowing the financial problems to affect M. Who knows? I talk to my C of how to get her to get past the past and join me here in the present. Again, I've gotten different opinions on this. I'm not sure what action my IC can suggest to me now? What else can I try? I think Steve is correct that I need to show her I'm a confident individual regardless of what she thinks. I feel like that's what I've been doing.

To answer your questions about separation agreement. In my state if I sign a separation agreement before the end of the one year separation period, my W can file and have her D after the one year. If I don't sign a separation agreement and contest the D, she has to wait a second year before she can get her D.

I specifically asked my IC if he thought W was detached and done. He didn't think so because of her anger on Monday. He said that someone who displays that kind of anger and says what she said about my changes is still "emotionally invested", his words. He told me today that he doesn't want to give me false hope but he sees some things recently that he suggests I give it some more time. He did say that I have got to stop talking to her about M. He said no question that is/will push her further away.