New Game- Exposed

[steady]

IMO you have to eventually get to a point where your trauma subsides...

from any interaction with W

Then you know you are healing.

If you place too much emphasis on how she is behaving or treating you

You haven't detached and

You haven't healed.

This is a strike on the center. This is where I'm at. She does these things, lies and fabrications, my frustration and anger has turned more to sadness and feeling sorry for her now. It comes and goes rapidly now. I am approaching the point where no matter what she says or does I will be unflappable.

I told my neighbor today that I feel bad for my W. I said, "I wouldn't want to live in her skin for a second. Could you imagine what it's like to live like that. The alcohol problem. The anxiety and stress. The lying and exaggeration."

I wouldn't want to be her right now.

This is closer to loving detachment rather than detachment from anger. I can see uou can detach using either one. Her behavior brought about the angry detachment, now it seems to be moving into a more neutral/loving detachment. I can see I needed the angry one first. So that's why it came like that.

I got what needed, not what I wanted. I'll take needed any day.