City Girl, I didn't think you were telling me to give up. I asked those questions as more of rhetorical questions. That's why I dislike writing things sometimes because it's not always easy to convey what I'm trying to say. I'm sorry if you thought I was questioning you. I know you have always been here supporting me and giving me good advice.
I was hoping that you have been following along. LOL, I don't think you were being creepy. I'm glad you know my history and have been following. I really do appreciate it.
I am very interested in hearing your full response. I agree that I don't want to get locked into a black or white approach. You're a woman, do you have any idea of what my W is thinking/going through now? I am really trying and I want to understand her. I think I am getting better at knowing. I know she's hurt and she's angry. Would love to hear from you CG when you have the time.
I saw W tonight at gym. I went up late figuring she would be gone. I went after I finished up house listing paperwork at office. She was at gym with her GF again. I did approach her and very cheerfully said that I had a copy of the house paperwork for her if she wanted to see me when she was done her workout and I would walk out to my car and give her her copy. She said ok. See got me when she was done and we walked out together. I gave her a very quick update on today's house activity. I was very cheerful and kept the conversation just about the house info and ended the conversation quickly.
I made sure to say hello and be cheerful to her friend who was very friendly back to me. W was very different from last night. She was very cold and distant. I remembered what my IC told me today to expect this from her and make sure I didn't react to it like I used to do. I was my new self tonight. I didn't let it bother me at all. At the end I thanked her and went to walk back into the gym and she told me to have a good rest of my workout.
M 38 WAW 36 Together 19 years Married 12 years Bomb/Separated Oct. 09 I love my wife Sitch