Steve, I hear everything you're saying. Yes, she certainly is into herself but then again aren't most WAWs?
When I was in graduate school, one year, I needed to work second shift in a factory in order to not starve. I hung sheet metal for appliances on a hanger to be run through a paint baker for 40 hrs a week for 200 dollars. Across the street was Smokey's Place. I would go for a few drafts with the guys from work, every now and again. There was one fellow, I worked with, who had his phone number tattooed on his forearm so when he passed out at the bar the bartender knew how to get a hold of his wife to pick him up. I realized then that everyone has there own set of problems that aren't yours to solve.
Originally Posted By: mza8
Again, what's my alternative? Give up?
No. Your alternative is to stop caring what your wife thinks about you and accept who you are for yourself, good or bad, right or wrong, whatever and whenever. Remember Sandi's Rule: these changes are for you. If your wife doesn't like them so be it. You can't control what another person thinks. In fact, you have no knowledge of what is going through their mind.
It usually goes that when they realize you are an individual and do not need their acceptance to be confident and self assured, is when they really take notice. Good Luck.
