I don't have time this second to fully respond to your post but thought I would offer this...
I didn't suggest or tell you to give up on your marriage. I am unsure how I conveyed that message. Why do you have to make a choice is what I was asking. I am all for your marriage but I personally think there are better ways to approach it given the circumstances and the history of it all. Not that I am expert(clearly!) but I *am* a woman contrary to popular belief. I know your history (I am not being creepy, lol, I have just followed your thread for a long time) so I didn't feel my suggestion was THAT outlandish.
Life isn't always black and white. Don't box yourself in with a this or that approach.
