Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

CG, the last two years of the M were pure hell financially. I don't want to rehash it again but I've written in previous posts the things we went through. Dealing with that amount of stress day in and day out for over 2 years would be enough to drive anyone crazy. W and I should have been in C during that time to at least get some help dealing with the stress. It changed my W, not in a good way, maybe for good. There is no question she has stepped away from reality now. I'm not sure I follow your tit for tat? I'm not sure I see where that's happening?

Had my IC today and updated him. He thinks she absolutely needs her own C to get past and deal with these issues. He sees what's happening too but he's not quite sure how to get her into C at this point. We do talk a lot and I'm not sure what other actions he could suggest? He told me today to just drop asking her about C now. He does think she is conflicted about going or not. He feels her thinking about going could have been her true thoughts but when she feels like she's being pulled into it she reverts back to her saying we want C for different reasons.

My C still thinks she has some conflict about what to do. He said that she has not accepted my last 3 invitationms for C for "her" reasons might mean she's not completely sure this is what she wants and she is giving herself time. He told me it's very easy to get frustrated by her lack of trying right now but suggested I give more time. He said that 9 months isn't unusual and he's had many couples who take well over a year before things happen. He thought her getting so upset is an obvious sign she is holding on to a lot of anger. He didn't think her anger had anything to do with the attorneys. He thought her true anger lies with the M. He gave me some good insight today.

So what's my choice here? Give up or keep trying? Yes, I know get out and GAL. I've been doing that plus going back to college new job, side job, etc., etc. So it really comes down to me. This M is still what I want and I'll keep fighting.