Pie's Story - he's comfortable again

[punkin]

Hi Pie - Punkin here. We'll be a riot around Thanksgiving. Anyway, I read your whole thread from Newcomers on. So here's MHO FWIW: Your husband comes and goes pretty much as he pleases. You need to set up a schedule of visitation and stick to it. Make a boundary. Either he's in your marriage or he's not. If not, then there will have to be rules to follow, for your own well being and sanity.

I have no kids at home, so I don't have that to deal with, but I do know that where there is smoke there is fire, and where there is fire there is usually a bimbo. Don't go snooping, it'll only get you hurt. Make some boundaries for your life and make him follow them. He is cake eating like a mad man.

Second, and this goes along with the first - DETACH. Live your own life. It's great that you go out with your BFF's, but not when he's at home babysitting, so he knows exactly what time you get home and who brought you. He's still controlling your life, and using your child as the hook.

You have to make a life that doesn't include him in it, just like he has done to you. The sooner you are able to do that, the better you will feel, and the less time you will be on the roller coaster. Time and perspective have a way of changing appearances.

I hope I didn't offend you in any way, but that is just the way it sounds to me.

((HUGS))