Wow CL, For some reason I went back to my first Post here.....
Do you reilize YOU were the first person to respond to me?
Has it been THAT long?????
(My first post) My w is seeing OM. It's her old boyfriend. We have been married for 18 years and now she tells me she has fallen out of love with me. We are seeing seperate coucl. we have a joing meeting next weds. She calls the OM everyday.( he is married and lives out of state. I know it's 90 % her and 10 % him but he calls her. I have been giving her space to work things out. I am taking my 10 year old son on aa week long camping trip. On the day we leave I am going to give m W a letter telling her when we get back she has to decide if she wants to save the marraige or not. I will tell hershe cannot contact him anymore or it's over. I have been keeping the affair to myself but Will let the family and freinds in on it if she refused to stop talikng to him. What do ya all think about my plan. _________________________ And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
#1040017 - 05/03/07 11:27 PM Re: trying to hold out [Re: Dr LOve] Concerned_Listener Member
Registered: 09/14/03 Posts: 1409 Loc: Ohio Husband, How long has the EA been going on?
How long have you been considering an ultimatum?
What is the quality of your R with your W? Has she stated that she wants a D?
Do you know what she's unhappy about? What problems is she running away from?
Have you diligently been DB, and working at improving your personal relationships, and doing things that you enjoy?
I need these questions answered initially, before I can form an opinion about your plan for an ultimatum. I want to make sure that you've done everything you can, and that you've given your W enough time to work things out.
CL _________________________ CL 50 W 50 M 17 yrs. 07'-09' GAL 10' Acting As If
"Like Jesus, face sin with both grace and truth."
----Boundaries in Marriage For those of you that do not know my sitch…. I Never did expose the A... It has been a Looooooooog Road with a lot of side tracks…… but here it is 3 years later and we are still together. W has moved back into our room…. And things are 150 % better than they were back then. We have made so much progress… W still has her self esteem issues and menopause issues AND a little MLC thrown in there but NOW I know. Now I can try to help her get through these…. Three years ago I was blind to this, I thought everything was fine…
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
