Particularly with men Sunny we need specific direction. We are trainable, but you have to make the dots very close together. smile

Telling him that he has to contribute and he has to do work on the marraige etc isn't particuarly specific for him.

A task list of things that need done with his name on it that is visual is going to go a lot further than abstractions I would think...

Just work on a plan, build it here if you want ... And then we can put it into a spreadsheet and assign him some work to do