CL, yes I guess we do have different definitions of boundaries and I do see that you may have not been the easiest of people to live with in the past, so I do see improvements on you being more able to go with the flow.
I think alot of this has been about saving you, releasing yourself from old habits and patterns that were very restrictive and prevented you from living the life that you felt would bring you greater happiness.
The Boundaries in Marriage book has helped me to see the importance of speaking-up about the truth as I see it in the M. I tend to underestimate my potential to influence the R, and am pleasantly surprised when my W responds to a verbal boundary.
My W has a difficult time with a standard 40 hour per week job. This is partly why I'm not pushing her to get back into the workforce. I want her to find something that fits her. In the past, she has been so stressed out from work, that she was no fun to live with.
The plan is to create enough positive connection to move us into intimacy. This will serve as prevention for future sleeping elsewhere problems.
I've changed so much, I don't recognize myself. I can't believe that I'll be performing in two months at a ballroom dance convention. My W and I are working on musicality in our lessons (body action consistent with the music). We have the foot timing down. This is where I need to grow as a dancer, and the resistance I need to work-thru.
I think part of what has kept me going in this M, is that I knew I had changes to make. I wanted to stick around and see how those changes would impact the M.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
