The BIGGEST poke in the eye (and I have a follow up that will blow you away, I hope- it did me)was this piece
Originally Posted By: Truegritter
...There is opportunity to express and communicate to your W that you love her more than just an exchange. You have an opportunity to prove to yourself that you can love without those conditions. That you are only expressing what you believe... For a time long enough to where you can move on without anger or resentment. That you are not a victim of soemone who wouldn't give you what you wanted BUT Someone who has courage enought to express the best kind fo love for his W.
The follow up that popped into MY head was let us look if the situation was reversed and WE were the WAS. How hard would it be, especially as time and the PEA wore off, to NOT look back at our W's if they continued to love us and respect our desire to leave without harshness; resentment; anger; bitterness; payback; etc? Damn impossible, I would think.
I think I just had another attitude tweak. It's a fine line between being "loving" and "pursuing/doormat" but to exude the loving attitude and manner would mean the difference.
And now that I've read this, I think I may have hurt my W today.
She sent me the following text: -Wanna hear the best thing to happen to me yet? -(Ex-fiance before CD name here) is moving to XXX for a girl he's had a LD R with for 8 months. Leaving the end of the month. -LOL Sweet @ss (5 minutes later) -No comment?
My brain was all over the place during this time, I chose not to respond as my thoughts were "How does this affectme? YOU are divorcing ME? Why is the ex-before-me and your happiness over his leaving town (like we've seen him even twice in 7 years) any concern of mine?
I sent: CD: I thought you sent this to me by accident W:Nope CD:Oh W:Nevermind CD:I understand how that would make you happy. That's good news for you!
Not very loving in light of the new revelations.
She's trying to share an "old moment" with me and I do this.
However, I still don't ubderstand how she could think this would matter to me ESPECIALLY given the current situation.
My first thought was to say: "Great. Maybe in 7 years when you learn I had a heart attack you can tell your next boyfriend after the OM?"
Sorry guys. I had no idea what she was trying to do and ignored her text as long as I could.
