I guess what I don't understand is why all of this has to be such a big deal. I know selling a house is stressful so I that is not exactly what I mean but why all of this "tit for tat" about the other stuff?
Your W might be watching you or she might be feeding you a line of bull. Having followed your story for some time I lean towards the line of bull but my opinion means jack. I don't care who you are, once the spouse that walks away gets all up in arms about NOT using attnys there is a very good reason for that and 99% of the time it has nothing to do with money. They either want a very quick and easy exit with minimal exposure or they have something to hide.
What would be the big deal about having a separation agreement in place along with the house agreement. Clearly your W (by logical conclusion and your own admission) does not have the tools to deal with "big girl" stresses and she has not made any movement to indicate she is interested in obtaining those essential life tools. As soon as you got on the stick about selling the house she dangled just enough in front of you to keep things going her way.
I would be FLOORED at this point if she sees a C. To me it sounds like you and your C do lots of talking but don't do much in the ways of action. I am not saying that is good or bad, it's just an observation.
So really what is the big deal? You divide the money/assets/debt or whatever "marriage" business you have and follow the law to do so. It's done that way and it will be a very good indicator if her intentions have any purity to them.
And to answer your question... if she wanted to see other sides of you aside from the business side she would. She would climb a mountain to do so. She hasn't. It's sad but reality.
