CL, yes I guess we do have different definitions of boundaries and I do see that you may have not been the easiest of people to live with in the past, so I do see improvements on you being more able to go with the flow. Your wife seems to have a very good and easy life,so she should be looking good and as that pleases you then thats another plus.Still not sure why she would need to sleep the day away when she does so little. I wonder if her not working was a problem just how quickly the reconnection you have would fall apart. Still as it all seems to be going in the direction you want,then that is all that matters. I guess a big plus is the fact that her b/friend/lover? has moved away and she has nowhere to sleep elsewhere. I think alot of this has been about saving you, releasing yourself from old habits and patterns that were very restrictive and prevented you from living the life that you felt would bring you greater happiness. I really hope that you can achieve all of these things and have a happy marriage. No one knows what that will be except you and that is all that matters.
