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What are you feeling, underneath the anger, when you react with the desire to dig?

rejection. and knowing that he has hurt me and doesn't care.
no, this is not mind-reading. in the past, he has said things that hurt me and when i told him how much it hurt me, all i got was a blank stare and a "i don't know why you're hurt. i stand by my comment." shocked

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i've come a long way.

You sure have.

i don't think about whether others have noticed my change in attitude. i try to keep the focus on myself. i still have a long way to go. hopefully my changes have made me better and not worse.