And yes, while I feel the money stuff is an issue - I can identify several of those statements above as being issues with H and I, it is definitely a smokescreen. The biggest problem I see is, if there is an issue, instead of addressing it head on, it is internalized and he runs outside the marriage to fix it, in whatever way. We don't solve things together. I get depressed and he looks for other things to make him happy. Now that we've learned all of this, however, through the weekend deal - he still refuses to fix it! To him, he still feels nothing for me and therefore, doesn't want to resolve these problems, just wants to move on.
