DSH, take a deep breath. As someone else pointed out (sorry, don't recall which poster), this is not an immediate process. My H served me last month. L contested. H has a good 2 year wait.
I would advise you to allow your W to come to you w/R & M talk. I wouldn't initiate it, but would listen when/if she does. Listen, validate. When speaking to her, make it about her. Not you or your feelings.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
