PH, Gr8 is correct, I've been to IC for over 9 months now, another appt. today. I've also had several sessions with DB coach. My DB coach and my IC have slightly different approaches than some of the advice here.
I try to balance it all and apply it to my sitch. All of this information is very helpful but can also be confusing at times since some things contradict others. The common theme in all of the advice I get from IC, DB coach and here is to give time, be patient, don't pursue and make your changes and they will notice. I now know from yesterday's talk with W that she is watching my changes. Funny though because she doesn't realize that I am separating the business stuff from our M issues now. She sees and judges me based on the business stuff. She doesn't see the rest of me. How could she unless she tries? So I'm doing the right thing with the business side of things. I'm handling things with strength and honor.
M 38 WAW 36 Together 19 years Married 12 years Bomb/Separated Oct. 09 I love my wife Sitch