How To Tell The Kids

[BeingMe]

Don't beat yourself up on "what ifs". It's in the past, and you can only learn from it. Yes, it was wrong to be mean and threatening to your W, but now you can go forward acting differently. You should've been detaching ... now is the best time to do so. Don't talk to her about anything. Mirror her. You have to know that the moment she had the A and decided the M was over, you had very little chance of staying married. All the decisions about that was made before you even knew it. She has had months to prepare herself, hence the cold emotionless attitude. I doubt she is feeling cold inside, but she's had more practice.

Be prepared to explain the porno ... that it was as a result of your W's inability to have s*x with you, her A, that it was out of sight and out of hearing of the children, etc. When did this happen? I am glad you are keeping track of everything she does and says. You can bet she is, and will twist it to suit her. Forget Poland, this is D-Day and you have one heck of a battle up the beaches, but ultimately you will win.

Deal with this as a business negotiation, as the other posters have said. There must be some way your lawyer can get you more time to find a place to live, and for your W to have less time to get a full-time job. I am glad you got more money for the holiday ... the kids will need these memories.

Take care.