That's just it: he doesn't care that it hurts. In his mind, it SHOULD hurt - I SHOULD hurt! He is wanting to blame me for all of his unhappiness and discontent with his life and not look at himself. MLC even though he won't admit it.
Well, MWD would tell you that he's just sharing his hurt because he donest know how to change things for the better... he's crying out in the only way he can.
He feels hurt and angry, but guess what... SO do you. He's in a rut and he is just giong to dig a big miserable hole fo rhimself... And it will get so deep he will need an affair or a bottle of alcohol to dig him one so deep he can't even see the sunlight anymore...
I would tell him to take the engergy he's using to blame you and direct it into something constructive instead.
How does he feel about being abandoned by his family when he was younger?
WHy doens't he talk to his father?
Yeah - I can see that but how on earth to get him out of that mindset is the big question! Yeah - he's hurt and angry, but his way of coping is not healthy at all - not for his family and not even for him though he doesn't see that.
He acts like it is no big deal that he was abandoned...that he's "fine" even though he never got help.
Stupidly enough, he and his father got into it over politics and now don't speak. SOOO stupid.
