can you draw the boundaries when you're really into someone and have something to lose?
You always have something very important (the most important thing in your life) to lose if you do not maintain healthy boundaries: yourself and your happiness.
I guess I should have said 'someone' to lose. It's easy to draw boundaries with people who have nothing you want or need. It's a whole different story to draw them and risk the other person walking away. That's what I meant.
Of course you need to do it in both cases or else you lose yourself, you lose the authenticity of the relationship and are basically living a lie. That's what being authentic is about. We believe it's unbelievably risky, but to be honest, most people will totally respect you for it - even if they walk away.
And women and men are attracted to a man who puts the real him out there regardless of what anyone thinks. And vice versa.
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