Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Thanks PH. I agree with you, no doubt my W is completely fixated on selling the house. She is very stressed out from it. Everyone keeps telling me that they think she won't be able to come around until the house is sold. I believe it. That's fine. I stepped up and did the right thing by listing it myself. We should be able to sell it quickly at the new low price. I continue to bust my a$$ with everything. Happy to to do it.

It was stange last night. There were times when she let her guard down and she was herself again. This was mostly when we talked about something other than the house or M. When we talked about the house you could see her change and get stressed. Sigh...I hope we sell this house within a month.

Hi Steve. I'm definitely not being a jerk. I'm doing what is right now, no more games. It actually seems to aggravate my W when I am too firm with things. She sees this as controlling and my old self. Kind of different than some of the DB methods I think. She wants me to take care of things, no doubt after last night, but she also doesn't want me to be too controlling of the situation. I think I understand her now.

I'm also going to do the right thing with the taxes. I mentioned that we filed an extension because she wasn't sure if she wanted to file jointly or separately. I had our accountant see what our taxes would be both ways. She called today and said W would owe a few thousand if she filed herself. I would owe a little but not too much to care if I had to file myself. We get a small refund if we file together. W will flip when she finds out she would have to pay so much if she files herself. I don't want to see that happen so I will offer to her that we file together so she doesn't have to pay.

It's all about doing what is right now. I think I still have a chance here and I'm not going to do anything to blow it. I have got to stop bringing up counseling with her though. I think she might go eventually but not yet. She is at least considering it now where she wasn't months ago. Lead and do the right thing in the meantime.