Training for a Marathon, Hoping for a Sprint

[lookin4support]

Chuck - Yes, I am sure. My attorney was just appointed Associate Judge for our District and he has repeatedly told me that it can be done within a month as long as both parties are in agreement. We have agreed upon the division of all assets and debts and that is included in the filing. If she were to get an attorney and dispute any of what we have agreed upon, then it would take considerably longer to get this done, but I don't see that happening.

Puppy - I appreciate the thoughts. I have told both my son and my parents that they need to be prepared for when she crashes. My intention is to be available to help her in any way she desires when it occurs. My response will be dependent upon what my situation is at that time, but I want them to be prepared for the possibility that we may end up working to restore our relationship at some point in the future.

Those who have read the whole back story will understand when I say that I have told family and friends that I understand the emotional position she is right now. We both have had very strong emotional reactions to the events of our lives, hers have just manifested themselves in a much more destructive way than mine. If she had a mental breakdown and was institutionalized I wouldn't be angry at her or refuse to work toward a resolution, and I don't see this as that much different. If and when she wants to work on our R, I plan to assess my life at that point and determine what response is in my best interest. Until then, I am going to move on with my life, always remembering the good times that we had.