Seeking some insight

[Crushed in KY]

I have set boundaries and told her that when she leaves she won't be able to pop in and play spouse and mother just because she wants too. She had offered to come stay here with the kids while I worked which I refused as I'm not putting the kids through that. She will need to stick to a schedule regarding visiting our kids and that if they didn't want to go with her I will NOT force them to.

I have removed her from all of our joint accounts and taken steps to change out all of the utilities in to my name only.

I also told her that she will need to obtain her own car insurance, register one of our vehicles in her name, transfer her cell phone into her own name, and obtain her own health, dental etc insurance as I am not going to be responsible for her financially once she leaves.

I also brought some boxes home and have begun to place things that are her's in them and will set them in the garage for her to take. I believe I pretty well on my way to being detached. It reminds me a bit of the Tough Love Theory. Now if it works only time will tell.