Dan, I know this feels like a setback, but like some have already said, you have more power here. You just have to tap into it. You were most likely going to be ordered out of the houes no matter what you did. It's just standard D fare.
I think that this will be a wake up call for your W. She is not going to have the benefit of you being there 24 hrs a day. She'll get a real taste of being a single parent. It's not easy.
You should put on a happy face at home no matter what. Do not talk to your W. Make her think that this is not bothering you. Until you feel like you are more in control of your emotions, do not talk to her. Avoid her if you have to. Explain to your kids what is happening and reassure them that you love them no matter where you live.
I think that you did the best you could in the time you had. You fight the rest in mediation. You will recover. This is a temporary bump in the road.
