I think my W is taking notes from yours. She changes either in the bathroom or in the closet with the door closed. This from a woman who used to take a dump when I was shaving... Oh well. She is like an iceberg today, so time to do more LRT and drop my rope.
When we got our dog, a friend joked that most guys wouldn't walk around picking up their wives [censored] in a little bag...Said that really shows where women stand in the pecking order. My wife didn't think that was funny at all.
Oh, I'm at work. And I'm very productive. I'm really having fun GAL lately. I might even go skydiving. Going to start golfing again too. So many things to do, and so little time. Especially with my two little angels.
I will paste my posts at the end of this msg. I'm a little embarrassed about how I handled some of the situations, but I was "hurting" and I'm a little on the stubborn side -- you'll see what I mean when you read them. I had two different threads since I left the Newcomers's section. I will admit that I'm still hurting big time. I do have my good days and bad days.
The pluses: I GAL big time, I do things for myself, I’m learning A LOT about myself and relationships, and I try to keep the communication open with my wife. I also don’t bring up the R talk or the OM. If she brings it up, I sometimes comment. Ever since she moved out (7/31/09), I haven’t argued with her. I can also stay very positive by going to my support groups, praying, etc. This helps big time.
The minuses: I haven’t detached from my W (this might be a plus though, depending who you talk to), I have pursued my W by giving her some things (bday present, made a scrapbook when she graduated with her MBA, and gave her some other little things, which for the most part upset her), and I still call her, but this is mostly about my job search… I do share some things happening in my personal life too (can be good or bad, depending on who you talk to).
I will admit that if I was graded on how I D-busted, I would probably fail. I’m pretty sure though that I might’ve been in the same situation today, whether or not I D-busted.
Anyway, I hope you can learn something from my situation (some of the advice I received was very good)!
Thanks. I do not have DR or DB because I could not afford the books. I have tried to learn the concepts and material on here as quickly and best as possible.
ME-41 W-33 M-8 D-8 S-4 D 5/17/2010 www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1961097#Post1961097
