Cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it

[alice444]

(am always following along, IR )

I like the email, short and to the point, no emotion. Bravo!!!

Glad you had fun on your trip- good for you for going!!!!

((((hugs))))

-A

[smith18]

CG is indeed awesome! Hard to believe her STBXH made the choice to leave her.

[alice444]

So STBXW responded with a laudry list of piddly stuff like the vases and cereal bowls etc. Then she ended the email with "That is what I can think of for now. It's hard to go over everything in my head since I can't see it all. Hope that helps."

ugh! she did pretty good in her head only forgetting the Q-tips perhaps. But the 'Hope that helps' bugs me.

I know you want a list ahead of time, but this could drag on forever! Is it possible to let her go through the house ONE more time only (tell her you have an hour and she needs to be done by then and gone) and pick out whatever it is from each room that she wants and be done with it?? I hate to see you expend so much mental energy for bowls and vases...

Anyway, not much new to write lately. Things are going OK I think.

They are, aren't they. You've adapted so much since I first met you. And getting stronger and more assertive, etc. each week. I'm proud of you and think you will come out of this with a lot of stuff learned about yourself. I know this was never what you wanted- but you are doing a great job with DD and with stbxw and have come a LONG way!

((((hugs))))

-A

[oldtimer]

Sounding much better :-) Giant steps!

[rockedworld]

Hey Romeo...

thanks for stopping by my thread. You sound like you are in a strong place too. None of us hopes to be here when we start out on these boards, but we find out what we are made of don't we? I, for one, am proud of what I am made of and it sounds like you should be too!

Rocked

[ImprovedRomeo]

Thanks guys, I appreciate the support! I have come a long way even since a few months ago and I was a total wreck four years ago where I couldn't even function normally. Those times were seriously rough. I remember lying awake in bed all night day after day with my heart beating out of my chest I seriously thought I'd get a heart attack but I couldn't stop myself from feeling that way no matter how hard I tried. I'd start to fall asleep and then my heart would do this dead cat bounce and I'd be wide awake again for another hour...and I had to pretend at work that I was normal. I lost over 20lbs in 3 weeks and I had to force myself to eat.

So there's hope for everyone! And like Alice said it's not just about surviving it's about learning too. I've learnt so much from my experience I wish I knew these things back then what I know now. I still have a loooong road ahead until the D is final and I can't wait for that day when it's all over.

You guys have been so awesome throughout the process, some of you I've known for a long time, some not so long but each one of you has helped me tremendously. Thank you and I'm here for you if you need support or just an ear to listen.

[soleil]

Aww (((Romeo)))

That is awesome that you're in a much better place now. Sleepless nights are not fun at all. Sounds like you're getting through this quite well. Do you guys have a date set for the D yet?

I've learnt so much from my experience I wish I knew these things back then what I know now.

True but the good thing is you can use what you know now for the future. Wisdom is such a great thing, huh?

If you have time, could you please look at my most recent posts and respond?

Keep up the great work!

[ClingingToHope]

People respect wisdom and you can only get wisdom from experience. You'll be able to council others how to get through the worst pain they'll ever experience.

People who don't go through it just don't understand.

It's like losing a child. I can't pretend to know how that hurts. Only people who have gone through it truly know.

[ImprovedRomeo]

OK I have a weird question for the DB ladies here. This really cute friend of mine says that the P letter word for women's underwear is derogatory and repulsive to women. I've NEVER heard that before but I've been known to live under a rock sometimes. I'm sure I have used that word a few times in the past includeing with STBXW and no one got offended- that I know of. I mean I'd rather say that word than 'boy shorts' or thongs! Can someone please educate me?

In other news, went out with G4 for a movie. She asked what days I'm free next week or this weekend and I just kinda beat around the bush and said I wasn't sure. This morning she texted me asking the same question which I haven't replied to. I'm not sure how to put a stop to it without being rude or hurting her feelings. She's cute and sweet but I'm just not attracted to her in that way.

[kat727]

Are you saying that calling them "panties' is an issue??? Really???? Not in the real world of big girls.

kat