I have screwed-up my lfe. If I had been nice to W, I would probably still be living in the house until the final decree.
Dan, I know you're hurting, but this just doesn't make any sense. You can't "nice" your way out of a lawsuit, and appeasement does NOT work (sorry for all the WWII analogies, but see "Chamberlain, Neville" for reference).
Now, it IS true that if you begin to assert yourself, and stand up for your own boundaries, that you DO have to be even better prepared, but if you failed on that front, then just learn from it and commit to do better the next time. The sad, scary truth about all this DBing crap is that -- by the time we get bombed -- you can't really affect 80-85% of it ANYWAY. A wayward is going to do what a wayward is going to do. All we can do is give ourselves the BEST shot at that 15-20%, for the best possible outcome, and if that doesn't work, at least we made ourselves stronger in the process.
