"I am a big believer that you have to experience your own mistakes before you learn..."

Learning from other peoples' experiences/mistakes has always been ME. It's just who I am by nature. On the flip side, I've been through the school of hard knocks one too many times in my young life - i.e. lost my mom to cancer when I was 12, my dad 8 months later from alcoholism/depression, step-brother in a coma for 3 months, and, unfortunately, many more experiences similar to these. It's been my lot in life. No biggie. I've gotten over myself (my own ego) a long time ago. That's the internal, psychological explanation on why I have a tough time with detachment. My personal experiences have ingrained in me very deeply...Sometimes the only way to get out of a burning forest is straight through. I consider this 'trait' a blessing and a curse. I just hope I don't screw it up with my wife.

"If this DJ is as manipulative as you think he is, is it possible that the divorce papers he took a picture of are fake? It seems that he can't be that bright if he's put all of his eggs in one basket by divorcing his wife and looking to yours to 'save him' by bringing him to the US. Wonder if there are any others he has on the 'hook' in case it falls through with your W?"

Hi seeking answers. You bring up a good point. It's something I haven't thought of before. All I know for certain is what he has done with/to my wife. I'll tell you another thing this psycho did. At one point I was snooping my wife's email. I don't justify what I did. It was wrong. I got busted snooping back in February, immediately stopped, and will not snoop again. My only defense is that I didn't know what else to do at the time. In any case, over a period of maybe 2 months I saw that, on DJ's Windows Messenger Profile, he gradually began removing pictures of his wife and kids. About a month into 'snooping' I went to his profile one day and saw a new folder of pics, with nothing but pics of my wife, a handful of pics of my daughter, and a couple of pics of my son and her parents. Long story short, based on allo of DJ's actions I've described for which I have proof, what you suggest is definitely in the realm of possibility. But, I have no way of knowing for sure. All I know is the guy is psycho, and has my wife hooked up on him. I don't know what to about it.