Right. I was getting a life. I graduated from college this year and started doing some things I had put off for a long time, and all was well, until he started isolating, then I dropped everything. I have a list of things I need to be doing that I enjoy, for sure. Now that my brain is starting to settle down I think I can get back to some of it. I felt like my life had been completely hijacked, but if it stays that way it's on me. I went up to the computer to write a nice father's day message, even though I knew he hadn't been as into our home life as he had been, I was willing to show appreciation for the father he is. On the computer screen was the message between him and the OW and she was so excited for their future together and saying that it would take him awhile to get out of his sitch. He admitted to contacting her and defended her, saying she wasn't a homewrecker. It's going to be hard to get past the reality of that with him. Clearly he will need to do a lot to earn back my trust if he wants it, but I can't wait around while he decides he wants it or not. It is too damaging to me. Rebuilding self esteem does seem to be key.
M: 49 H: 51 Together since 11/2006 Married 8/2008 D: 16, 15, 12 Step S: 10 Bomb drop: 6/20/10 H Very unhappy and confused but staying and doing the work for now.
