DRML you just need a bit of tweaking in the boundaries dept, a dash of kindness and compassion for your H, and a pinch of emotion peaking through, and you need the face time to make your H even aware that he is letting a fabulous "cupcake" out of his life.
hey lauraoh. you know, i think i've been "practising" for the longest time. as soon as i get in my car, i basically start talking/rehearsing what i would say to my h if he was standing in front of me. at the beginning, all i did was yell. and it was a lot like the early days on this board. and last night, i sat in my apartment and i started talking calmly. there is still a part of me that tries to dig. because i think what if he found someone else who IS better than me? i know i said if he found someone who is better than me, i'd wish him the best but .. what if he actually did find someone who is better? then i calm myself down and carry on. notice no crazy posts? no stalking? i've come a long way.
the compassion is starting to set in. i just hope it's there when i get the chance to talk to him.
it's been almost a month since my l sent his l the note asking for all of his supporting documentation. the supporting documentation may or may not change the numbers in our separation agreement. my guess is it will so i want to make sure the numbers are pretty firm before i talk to him.
then i calm myself down and carry on. notice no crazy posts? no stalking? 
