Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Update. Breaking it up into two posts.

Few new developments over the past few days. Bank issue was resolved last Friday. Next item on the list to take care of was signing listing agreement for house and getting it back on the market. I made my revisions to the agreement and emailed it back to W Sunday night. I explained the changes I made to the agreement and why. Explained that I kept in everything relating to listing the house, my commission, and what I promised to do, etc. Told her that I took out unrelated items such as the parts about marriage stuff, splitting of bills, etc. as this is what I was advised to do.

W called me Monday morning and we talked about the agreement. Conversation began politely. She asked why I made some of the changes and I explained again that it was what I was advised to do. Well, that opened the gates of hell. She became furious. She said that if I had a lawyer I should just tell her. Said, that’s fine/good then we can all meet together with our lawyers and work this out. She didn’t want to spend a lot of money or lawyers and said she didn’t think I did either.

Then I think the real reason she was upset came out. She tells me that two weeks ago when I was talking to her about things (my apologies, etc.) she was starting to think that maybe I had changed and was thinking about things. She then said that it’s clear that I haven’t changed and it’s the same old me trying to work my angles with everything. Let me be clear, when she talked about her thinking I was changing and now she thinks I’m not, she was extremely upset. Very loud voice and talking very fast. I just shut my mouth and listened. Honestly, she was talking so fast I don’t think I could have gotten a word in anyway.

This was the first time in a long time that I can remember her being this upset. She was so upset when she was talking about how she was beginning to think I was changing but now thinks that I’m not. She went on and on about that for awhile. Again, I just listened and said I understand that she feels this way and I’m sorry she feels this way. No doubt in my mind anymore that she is in fact watching what I do and how I handle things. This is a critical time where I must be consistent in everything I do with her. I think I might finally be starting to see her opening up a bit.

We talked for about an hour. She asked again why I made some of the changes to the agreement and I again explained that it was what I was advised to do. She said that I should stop beating around the bush and if I had a lawyer that I should let her know. I told her that I had spoken to several lawyers and left it at that. Things got quiet. I then told her that I want to do the right thing. We talked some more about the agreement and negotiated it to both of our liking.