Lost and Confused

[Bethechange]

My H said the same things, but has vowed to not speak to OW and is in counseling. He continues to do things for my daughters and we are all going on family vacation next week together, which is going to be difficult, but I am also trying to save my marriage, and I've come to the conclusion the only way to do that is to let him go for now. I feel him pulling further and further away but there is nothing I can do about it except be the best person that I can be today, for myself, for the kids, and if he decides to stay that would be great, but so much has to change. It is so baffling how you can think you have a great thing, and then this happens. Hang in there! I have no advice, but it is so helpful to talk to people who are going through the same thing and getting through it. It does defy logic and it's very painful. All I know is that the crying and telling him how much I wanted the marriage was only making things worse and hurting me, so I can't do that anymore.