My husband of 19 years asked me for a divorce on July 8. I really did not see this coming. We have three D together (24, 18, 16). Our 18 and 16 D have struggled for the last two years with addiction issues. My H and I have fought for them (together) and they have just recently started turning themselves around. We are both guilty of putting our marriage on the back burner while fighting for our kids. Several months ago he reconnected with a woman he dated in high school and began an EA. I heard all the lines - I'm not happy, I need to find myself, I don't feel the same about you anymore, I don't want to live this life anymore, etc. As we talked about this, he did tell me he thought the OW could make him happy. She has been divorced 3 times and has many issues. He moved out 1 1/2 weeks ago to an apartment. We both decided that for our kids sakes we need to be okay with each other. I do not want to give up and of course did all the wrong things - pleading, crying... Since he moved out we have gotten along quite well. He has been here several times and does seem to hang out like he doesn't want to leave. He has done some very nice things - mowing the lawn, fixing the lawnmower, taking my girls birthday shopping for me. We are going to a demolition derby tonight with the kids. I'm not sure if he's doing these things out of guilt or because he's confused. By the way, we had the type of marriage that other people were jealous of - no fighting, very close, etc... Any thoughts? I am desperate to save our marriage!
