Puppy, I know this was the right thing to do and i guess it was easy to do both because I really love both kids and also due to the fact that i see the M as over. It was actually easy to get up this morning, smile and say good morning to everyone including her because getting into this state has taken a lot of pressure off me.
It also seems like the pressure has moved over to her. Not because she wants to stay but just by the reality that even though she has already told all her friends she now has to deal with childcare for her S, finding a new place to live etc.
I am lucky in the fact that I have a very good and cooperative parenting arrangement with my S mother. So the transition into a new place will not be too difficult or time sensitive for me.
She on the other hand has always fought with her S father and he also sticks very rigidly to their court enforced parenting plan so there is no flexibility. When i was around this was not an issue but it is now and she is feeling the pressure. Initially even when she told me she wanted to separate i felt some sympathy for her and helped out as normal. But due to her behavior now I am less inclined to help and that is infuriating her. She needs to see what being on her own means. If she dealt with him like she is dealing with me I am not surprised.
that having been said i do not want her back cause she needs a child minder.
I guess the fact i see no way out and am just taking care of my S and myself ( and step S when it works for ME ) and getting on with life means I have detached. Having a great summer outside of this and actually had a good nights sleep on my own. i think i could get used to this
