Well, I know for fact he won't go near my kids and she doesn't interact with him in person when she has the kids. He knows that if he comes within sight of my kids he has me to deal with. We have discussed custody and she has said she won't fight me over sole custody of the kids which I thought she would. But in retrospect it makes since especially since she doesn't want any responsibility for being a spouse, mother etc...
I have scheduled the two older kids to speak to a therapist and hopefully that will aid them in dealing with the totality of the situation.
The thing that sucks about this whole situation is I can see this guy sucking her into his world and her losing everything because of it. Her professional credentials to work etc... She on the other hand is either in denial or just doesn't see him for what he is.
He recently got arrested on drug charges and is pending a case in court. I felt that would be enough for her to break away but instead she blamed herself for his situation and continues to try to take steps to aid him.
I realize and so do her friends and family that she is on a path of self destruction but none of us can make her see that. I just hope she comes to her senses before he causes her to lose everything she has worked her whole life to obtain.
M/49 H/35 Married 10 yrs 4 kids: B9, D7, B5, D3 Learned of EA June 2010 ILYBNILWU June 2010 Learned of SA July 2010
