After Exposure - Keep It Going

[Dazed&Confused]

Let me ask you this.. if when your marriage first started to turn downward your wife can HERE instead of the routes she was taking do you think she would be where she is now?

I honeslty think she just took teh wrong path and it spiraled out of control. You are lucky you found this place or you could be just as mean as her right now

Your wife went to unhealthy places for her marital problems and look where its gotten her

angry and insecure... and headed for divorce... not healthy at all dude...

I personlly think that this is a very important question. I know that for me, this site has saved me from turning angry, vindictive, you name it. Like Allen said, you have a choice what path you decide to embark. I am not saying that I still do not get angry, quite the opposite, but I handle it much differently.

The problem with the WAW is that she has got to want a support group that is open minded. From my brief experience, it seems like most WAW's go the support group that will tell them what the want to hear, instead what they need to hear.

For example, my wife lost her mother when she was young. She bounced around from step family to step family and never really had "steady" parents. We have been together for 13 years, and her and my mother have become quite close. She had even mentioned it to me many times in the past. If they were so close, why didn't she go to my mother for advice, help, ect.? My mother has taken her side against me before, so it isn't like she could have been afraid that my Mom wouldn't listen.

My mother even emailed her after she found out about us to let her know that she was there for her. Still no contact from the wife. Hopefully my mother doesn't take offense, but my point is, they seek help from where they will get the answers that they want. Sites like these will provide support from all sides, which is probably the last thing in the world that they want.

Again, my .02