How To Tell The Kids

[dday101798]

I feel like not talking to her and being tough is what ended-up getting me out of the house. W was prepared to live together until the end of the D proceedings until I started to play hardball with the money and stopped talking to her. Now I am f'd and have to find a new place to live.

Dan,

This is the nature of the game. I'm willing to bet everything that getting you out of the house has been the plan for a long time. That's how it rolls when things get this far along.

See, here's the flip-side in it all.

Just like when you came here, and it was discovered an affair was going on, what were you told? "Gather intel to be 100% of the affair", no?

So, remember when I told you about your wife's lawyer? Remember what I told you about the lawyer-client relationship? Let's face the facts, your wife doesn't have a real job. Consequently, she, having the affair, doesn't have significant income, a home, or a plan to compensate for losing either of them. Therefor, the moment she revealed the affair to her lawyer, the immediate response was to gather intel on YOU to paint you so horrid, that the affair is "irrelivant" in the proceedings and that she deserves these things from you.

Like I said man, (x)W's OM was there, each and every time. Both myself and my lawyer were nearly charged with contempt of court when he kept sticking his nose in our business and I said to my lawyer, "can we get him the f$%k out of here?" and my lawyer followed up to her lawyer the same question, and the baliff about threw us out until her lwayer said to OM, "get the F%&k out of here". As I said, her lawyer had FULL knowledge of who OM was, and the affair. And her lawyer apologized TO ME for what she had to do, but "it's her job".

You know, writing this, is nipping at some deep scars. It's a very nasty experience my friend, so long as you keep making it personal. You need to see past the legal tape in it, seriously. Believe me, I was 100% devasted when the temp order came across that I be DENIED ALL VISITATION (sighting eh-hum, "he's an alcoholic"). I am still VERY bitter about that to this day. (x)W proclaims still to this day taht she had no knowledge of that.

Get my point there?

NOW, about this moving out shitte. Ehhhh, maybe in the land of cheese they do things really effed up, but here, you have 30 days to RESPOND to that PETITION to have you move out of the house in "x" days. If that is indeed an "ORDER", there is something you aren't telling us. In order for that to be true, you must be an immediate THREAT to either the safety and well-being of your wife, or your children (or both). That's how it rolls here (hence, my little "no visitation order").

So what's up with that?