Seeking some insight

[Crushed in KY]

When she left the last time She insisted on coming here even though she was seeing him the entire time and lying to all of us about it.

She continues this behavior and is very erratic. She's begun drinking heavily and also exhibiting other behaviors which make me think she is just out of control. We spoke last night and I told her she could go when she is ready. She won't go at the moment as some of her relatives who don't know the situation have come to visit and will be here at least a week. The I just found out this morning that her dad who plans to move here (he has already purchased a house here) will be here the following week. He is also unaware of what's going on and when he finds out what she has been doing he will hit the roof. She has already alienated her mothers side of the family with lying and changing the story on why she's doing what she's doing. She has just told them she's unhappy and has been for a long time. She neglected to tell them about her 23 year old sack of crap boyfriend and the affair with him.

I don't really want to get into the middle of things with her family as I don't want her to be able to say that I turned them against her. She's pretty much done that herself.

Thanks for the input and your right I agree she needs to be set free and that's what I intend to do. Apparently now she's ready but won't until everyone who isn't aware of what's going on leaves which will be at least 2 to 3 weeks.

Any suggestions on how I should handle things while that occurs?